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Tools
Of Recovery in Overeaters Anonymous
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In
working Overeaters Anonymous' Twelve-Step program of recovery from
compulsive overeating, we have
found that there are a number of tools available to assist us. We
use these tools-a plan of eating, sponsorship, meetings, the telephone,
writing, literature, anonymity and service-on a regular basis, to
help us achieve and maintain abstinence.
In Overeaters
Anonymous (OA), abstinence is "the action of refraining from
compulsive eating." Many of us
have found that we cannot abstain from compulsive eating unless
we use some or all of OA's eight tools of
recovery.
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A
Plan of Eating
As a tool,
a plan of eating helps us to abstain from eating compulsively. Having
a personal plan of eating guides us in our dietary decisions, as
well as defines what, when, how, where and why we eat. It is our
experience that sharing this plan with a sponsor or another OA member
is important.
There are
no specific requirements for a plan of eating; OA does not endorse,
recommend or distribute any
specific food plan, nor does it exclude the personal use of one.
For specific dietary or nutritional guidance, OA suggests consulting
a qualified health care professional, such as a physician or dietician.
Each of us develops a personal plan of eating based on an honest
appraisal of his or her own past experience; we also have come to
identify our current individual needs, as well as those things which
we should avoid.
Although individual
plans of eating are as varied as our members, most OA members agree
that some plan-no
matter how flexible or structured-is necessary.
This tool
helps us deal with the physical aspects of our disease, and helps
us achieve physical recovery. From
this vantage point, we can more effectively follow OA's Twelve-Step
program of recovery and move beyond
the food to a happier, healthier and more spiritual living experience.
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Sponsorship
Sponsors are
OA members who are living the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
to the best of their ability.
They are willing to share their recovery with other members of the
Fellowship and are committed to abstinence.
We ask a sponsor
to help us through our program of recovery on all three levels:
physical, emotional and
spiritual. By working with other members of OA and sharing their
experience, strength and hope, sponsors
continually renew and reaffirm their own recovery. Sponsors share
their program up to the level of their own
experience.
Ours is a
program of attraction; find a sponsor who has what you want, and
ask that person how he or she is
achieving it. A member may work with more than one sponsor and may
change sponsors at will.
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Meetings
Meetings are
gatherings of two or more compulsive overeaters who come together
to share their personal
experience, and the strength and hope OA has given them. Though
there are many types of meetings,
fellowship with other compulsive overeaters is the basis of them
all. Meetings give us an opportunity to identify and confirm our
common problem and to share the gifts we receive through this program.
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Telephone
The telephone
helps us share on a one-to-one basis and avoid the isolation which
is so common among us.
Many members call other OA members and their own sponsors daily.
As a part of the surrender process, it is
a tool with which we learn to reach out, ask for help and extend
help to others. The telephone also provides an immediate outlet
for those hard-to-handle highs and lows we may experience.
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Writing
In addition
to writing our inventories and the list of people we have harmed,
most of us have found that writing has been an indispensable tool
for working the Steps. Further, putting our thoughts and feelings
down on paper, or describing a troubling incident, helps us to better
understand our actions and reactions in a way that is often not
revealed to us by simply thinking or talking about them. In the
past, compulsive eating was our most common reaction to life. When
we put our difficulties down on paper, it becomes easier to see
situations more clearly and perhaps better discern any necessary
action.
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Literature
We study and
read OA-approved pamphlets and OA-approved books. Some of the OA
approved books include Overeaters Anonymous, The Twelve Steps and
Twelve Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous, the AA Big Book and For
Today. We also read Lifeline, our monthly magazine on recovery,
to understand and reinforce our program.
Many OA members
find that when read on a daily basis, the literature further reinforces
how to live the Twelve Steps. Our OA literature and the AA "Big
Book" are ever-available tools which provide insight into our
problem of eating compulsively, strength to deal with it, and the
very real hope that there is a solution for us.
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Anonymity
Anonymity,
referred to in Traditions Eleven and Twelve, is a tool that guarantees
that we will place principles before personalities. The protection
anonymity provides offers each of us freedom of expression and safeguards
us from gossip. Anonymity assures us that only we, as individual
OA members, have the right to make our membership known within our
community. Anonymity at the level of press, radio, films and television
means that we never allow our faces or last names to be used once
we identify ourselves as OA members. This protects both the individual
and the Fellowship.
Within the
Fellowship, anonymity means that whatever we share with another
OA member will be held in
respect and confidence. What we hear at meetings should remain there.
However, it should be understood that anonymity must not be used
to limit our effectiveness within the Fellowship. It is not a break
of anonymity to use our full names within our group or OA service
bodies. Also, it is not a break of anonymity to enlist Twelfth-Step
help for group members in trouble, provided we are careful to refrain
from discussing any specific personal information.
Another aspect
of anonymity is that we are all equal in the Fellowship, whether
we are newcomers or seasoned long-timers. And our outside status
makes no difference in OA; we have no stars or VIPs. We come together
simply as compulsive overeaters.
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Service
Carrying the
message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers is the basic
purpose of our Fellowship;
therefore, it is the most fundamental form of service. Any form
of service-no matter how small-which helps
reach a fellow sufferer adds to the quality of our own recovery.
Getting to meetings, putting away chairs,
putting out literature, talking to newcomers, doing whatever needs
to be done in a group or for OA as a whole, are ways in which we
give back what we have so generously been given. We are encouraged
to do what we can when we can. "A life of sane and happy usefulness"
is what we are promised as the result of working the Twelve Steps.
Service helps to fulfill that promise.
As OA's responsibility
pledge states: "Always to extend the hand and heart of OA to
all who share my
compulsion; for this, I am responsible."
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