Our OA Community

When I get writer’s block, often I will pull out a dictionary and read the definition of the word I am pondering to break it down to its simplest components. When I looked up COMMUNITY it was defined as “a social, religious or occupational group, sharing common characteristics and perceiving itself as distinct in some respect from the larger society within which it exists”. Our distinct problem, compulsive eating, is the focus of our concern and our meetings bring together people from very disparate backgrounds. Thankfully, in the fellowship’s eyes we are all equal even though we come from every social, economic and religious group. In our community we are accepted for what we are. We can take off our masks and let down our defenses because we are among people who understand and care about us.

I, like many of us, am an isolationist. Most of the time I practiced my disease when I was alone, feeling very much apart from the rest of the world. I didn’t think that anyone would understand or relate to me. Yet in OA I found that I could be totally honest about myself and still be accepted unconditionally. I was never meant to face this disease in isolation. I was meant to open up so I might learn to truly love others and myself as well. I needed to learn to ask other people for help and let HP speak to me through my OA compadres.

Today I give thanks for OA as HP’s healing power comes to me through a caring community of other compulsive eaters. If I listen closely in meetings I hear or say something I need to learn; therefore, I am grateful for this program and its fellowship.

Anonymous

Richland Hills

The primary purpose of Tri-County Intergroup is to aid those with the problem of compulsive eating through the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous, and to serve and represent the OA groups from which the Intergroup is formed.
Tri-County Intergroup generally meets at 10:30 A.M. on the first Saturday of each month.

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I Found Real Community

I Found Real Community

 

When I came to OA, I was depressed and angry with the circumstances of my life.  I had spent many years in bed in pain and had been experiencing the isolation, hopelessness and desperation of my disease.  I honestly did not have the desire to stop eating compulsively.  I wanted to wake up a size 6 and never have to try to control my overeating again.  At the very first meeting of OA I heard others tell their experience, strength and hope, and for the first time I felt some hope, too.

 

The fellowship of OA has been so good to me.  They helped me to feel accepted and valuable. The program has helped me develop into a loving, caring person.  The weight I have lost has allowed me to stop taking pain medication – to actually have a life.  I am driving again and able to give service to OA and to my church.

 

This community of caring and sharing individuals have shown me a path of living every day in fellowship with them and with my higher power.  I hid behind so many masks while I was in my disease and my OA friends have heard some of my worst feelings about myself and some of my worst actions and have only reflected understanding to me.  I was so afraid anyone who really knew me would despise me that I have always isolated myself, having few friends.  My OA fellows have always welcomed me with open acceptance.

 

Finding a likeminded group of individuals in OA has been a life altering experience for me.  The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions have given me a foundation for a fulfilled and joyous life.  Closer communication with my higher power has further enriched my spiritual life.  My daily gratitude list starts with OA and my OA friends, without whom I would have been trapped in a hopeless half-life.

Anonymous

South Hills, Literature:

Step / Tradition of the Month

Looking Up JUN2015

The primary purpose of Tri-County Intergroup is to aid those with the problem of compulsive eating through the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous, and to serve and represent the OA groups from which the Intergroup is formed.
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Quotes relating to steps 6 & 7

Some quotes relating to OA Steps 6 & 7

in my opinion

Last night at the meeting, we read and shared about OA Steps 6 & 7.  My children had recently shared the following quotations with me and they were helpful as I considered these steps for myself. I hope you will like them also.

 

“Instead of indulging in comfort food, indulge in:

comfort Meditation,

comfort journaling,

comfort walking,

comfort talking,

comfort manicures,

comfort reading,

comfort yoga,

comfort hugging.”

—-Karen Salmonsohn

 

“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.”

—quote from #MorningMotivation

 

“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.”

—Pema Chodron

 

“Attract what you expect,

Reflect what you desire,

Become what you respect,

Mirror what you admire.”

— source not given

 

“We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

–Joseph Campbell

 

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.  The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”

–Thomas A. Edison

 

Thinking of you today, wishing you a peaceful, hopeful and abstinent day.

Carolyn D

Looking Up APR 2015

The primary purpose of Tri-County Intergroup is to aid those with the problem of compulsive eating through the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous, and to serve and represent the OA groups from which the Intergroup is formed.
Tri-County Intergroup generally meets at 10:30 A.M. on the first Saturday of each month at Trinity […]

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Safe Haven

 

Safe Haven

There is a presence and power of God within the walls of an OA meeting.  I find fellowship and acceptance that I do not find anywhere else.  It is a haven, a safe place, where I can share my deepest and darkest thoughts and my gifts of abstinence and miracles.  It is a unique environment.  I can attend a meeting and not say a word and I will be accepted.  I can attend a meeting and pour out my pain and be encouraged.  I can attend a meeting and share my abstinence and God’s blessings and be understood.

 

In OA, I have an extended new family.  Where else can I laugh as I talk about my insane behavior when it comes to food and behavior with others?  I ate out of the garbage.  Shocking?  No, smiling nodding faces let me speak without interruption.  I went to the store at 2 a.m., bought bags of candy and vegetables so the cashier wouldn’t judge me, only to devour the candy in the car on the way home.  I slept with food in my bed. Surely no one else did that!  I am wrong again, as I see the knowing grins around the room.  I consciously started arguments with my spouse to trigger a reaction so I justified eating my secret stash of binge food?  Again, silent, knowing acceptance from my new OA friends.

 

Knowing that the presence and power of God is within an OA meeting helps me trust the strangers around me.  It took me years, but breaking my wall built out of unmet expectations of others, fear of rejection, mistrust of myself, God and every other human being began when I became willing to work the Steps and attend meetings to listen and believe in the restoration of sanity OAs lived.

 When I attend a meeting and say, “Hi, I’m Karin, and I’m a compulsive overeater” I am identifying myself as a member of the group.  The response, “Hi, Karin” reassures me that I am accepted as part of a group.  Before OA, I was a loner.  I did not love myself or anyone else.  I expected perfection of myself and others.  Doing it alone always separates me from God and relationships.

On vacation, I visited an OA group.  Instantly I felt a sense of belonging, a warm acceptance.  I listened to the pain and miracles of recovery from people I had never met before.  I have spoken with OAs via telephone meetings and members living around the world, from Dubai to New York City.  How comforting to know that these people care about my recovery and are willing to give service!

Community.  Without knowing it, I have become a participant in a worldwide, Higher Power inspired group of wonderful giving people.  I am no longer the outsider looking into the window of a world I did not belong.  I no longer lie to the world, saying I’m doing just fine, then binge alone and wallow in self-hate. I am traveling this road of recovery with others, finding a safe room when I need rest.

 

Why can’t I recover on my own willpower?  “…We were never meant to face this disease in isolation” (OA 12 &12, p.16).   I have found God and God with skin on in OA.

 

Karin W.

South Hills Group

Looking UP Apr 2015

 

   
 

The primary purpose of Tri-County Intergroup is to aid those with the problem of compulsive eating through the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous, and to serve and represent the OA groups from which the Intergroup is formed.
Tri-County Intergroup generally meets at 10:30 A.M. on the first Saturday of each month at Trinity […]

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Happiness Found Here

Happiness Found Here

Accept and be glad!

I never thought I could have one moment of happiness unless I could eat exactly what I wanted, when I wanted, how much I wanted and never gain weight.  That was because I could not imagine my life without overeating.  While it had me in its tight grip, I too was holding on to it for dear life because I had nothing to take its place.  Nothing to fill that hungry emptiness I was trying to stuff “full enough”, but never succeeded.

Then one day I realized I could not do it anymore.  I could not try one more diet or weight loss product or believe one more promise about losing weight.  I was done.  And then heard about OA.

At my first meeting I heard what I had never heard before – I had a disease!  I was not a bad person, I was sick!  But at that meeting I also felt what I had never felt before – acceptance.  I received acceptance exactly where I was, not after I had lost the weight and could fit back into my “skinny” clothes in order to be a part of the group.  I was accepted now.

The acceptance astounded me.  And then I began to receive phone calls from people I had only met a time or two!  This encouraged me to make a phone call too – to ask someone to be my sponsor.

Gradually, my life began to change as I responded to the loving, caring and sharing I was receiving.  Sometimes I experienced those things the hard way, through tough love and hearing hard truths I did not always want to hear; through abstaining no matter what; through taking the steps over and over and trusting God with the results.  Sometimes these qualities were expressed by the simple transparency and honesty of each person sharing at a meeting.  They laid their lives open for me to read and see with what I could identify and what I could find that might work for me too.

Over the years, the countless hours of selfless loving, caring and sharing in many OA meetings, on retreats, on the phone, or through emails, have enabled me to let go of my grip on food even as God removed my obsession for it.  Now I know that I do not need food to make me happy.  I need the joy of the OA fellowship and my relationship with God.  I have these two vital things each day when I not only reach out to make contact with my fellow compulsive eaters but when I share what has been so generously given to me by them and God.  I make contact with God through daily prayer and meditation and by practicing the principles of the program in all my affairs.  I have finally filled that bottomless “hungry” hole in me.  So much so, that I have enough to give away, with joy in the giving.  Thank you OA and God!  You have done for me what I could not do for myself.

Kathy W, Bethel HOW group

Looking Up MAR 2015

The primary purpose of Tri-County Intergroup is to aid those with the problem of compulsive eating through the Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous, and to serve and represent the OA groups from which the Intergroup is formed.
Tri-County Intergroup generally meets at 10:30 A.M. on the first Saturday of each month at Trinity […]

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